When people say “culture is meant to be shared” I’m literally like ???? Because that has literally never been the purpose of any culture. Culture is about identity, community and family. It’s about tradition. It is not and has never been about “sharing”.
They keep saying “shared” when they mean “made available for my consumption.”
and boom goes the dynamite
LAUGHING FOREVER BECAUSE I HAVE ONLY EVER HEARD WHITE PEOPLE PROTECT THIS NOTION THAT CULTURE IS SOLEY IDENTITY. Tell that to the African-American girl I met who attempted to braid my hair like hers (sadly, my hair just wouldn’t stay put) when we were both about seven years old. Tell that to the Indian family across the street who invited me over for a traditional dinner and put a red bindi on my forehead, so that I could fit in more. Tell that to the young woman I worked with who, when I complimented her on her beautiful hijaab, got me one the next day and showed me how to wrap my hair in it. Tell that to the Thai monk I met at the DMV who invited me to his temple and eat with his family. Tell that to ME, because whenever a friend shows an interest in how to wear traditional Indonesian clothing, or eat Indonesian food, I AM ECSTATIC I AM SO HAPPY TO SHARE MY CULTURE WITH PEOPLE.
Shame to the people who say culture is not for sharing. Because when people share their culture, it is not only a sign of acceptance to you, the outsider, but also a point of pride and happiness that their culture is being acknowledged by others.
Furthermore, when you say culture is not for sharing, you imply a level of blindness of other peoples culture. In my eyes, it is no better than saying “I dont see color.” Yes you do, everyone sees color, just as everyone sees culture.
While I certainly agree that you cant just go around bastardizing culture, (see Katy Perry’s Dark horse MV and AMA 2013 performance) if you respect and are invited into that culture by no means should you ignore it. EMBRACE ALL CULTURES. LOVE ALL CULTURES. THEY ARE ALL BEAUTIFUL ASPECTS OF HUMANITY. Seriously, I have zero qualms with someone genuinely interested in my culture using it or being a part of it. I feel only joy and pride, because it means that other people see my culture as something they want to be a part of.
It means they find my culture interesting and maybe kinda cool! It makes me proud of where I come from, and isn’t that sort of a BIG PART of culture?
i love the term “partners” are we dating? are we robbing a bank? do we run a legal firm? are we the dedicated detectives who investigate these vicious felonies and are members of an elite squad known as the special victims unit? who knows.